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Whether to Wed: A Legal and Tax Guide for Gay and Lesbian Couples


Important Legal, Tax, and Financial Planning Considerations for Same-Sex Couples in the Wake of the U.S. Supreme Court’s Historic Rulings on Gay Marriage.

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This is an ambitious book laying out the broad outlines of where we’ve been, where we are, and where we are going. Scott’s practical assessments of how marriage changes rights and responsibilities are important reading for everyone. Equally important are his reminders of sensible legal steps to take regardless of marriage.

Mary L. Bonauto, Esq.
Civil Rights Project Director, GLAD, Boston, MA

Scott Squillace is a dedicated lawyer, a gay husband, and an expert on the legal opportunities and land mines for same-sex couples. In Whether to Wed, he has written a timely, readable, and thorough starting point for gay and lesbian Americans who are thinking about marriage, grappling with the intricacies of conflicting federal and state laws, and building families—meaning, these days, most of us.

Jonathan Rauch
Senior Fellow The Brookings Institution Author, Gay Marriage: Why It Is Good for Gays, Good for Straights, and Good for America

This is a rapidly changing area of law and Scott Squillace’s book will help members of the LGBT community evaluate whether marriage is the right way to go. It is written with the non-lawyer in mind—but lawyers will also benefit from its wisdom.

Joan M. Burda
Attorney at Law Author, Estate Planning for Same-Sex Couples

Whether to Wed is the primer every same-sex couple should read, whether they’re contemplating marriage, or if they’ve already tied the knot. Scott Squillace helps us understand the legal, tax and financial consequences of marriage—both the benefits and the challenges—in an objective, organized and easy-to-understand way.

John McGowan
Senior Vice President, Northern Trust National Practice Leader for LGBT and Non-Traditional Family Practice

Whether to Wed demystifies the complex laws that apply to same sex couples, providing a timely, straightforward, and comprehensive guide to use as they consider what’s best for their personal situations.

David Williams
Intuit Chief Tax Officer and Executive Director of the American Tax and Financial Center at TurboTax